On the other hand, if you feel he’ll be cool with it, then why not enjoy? If you aren’t sure, that could be an indication that maybe, hooking up with him isn’t a smart move. In other words, based on your own experiences of your roomie thus far, how do you think he’ll act afterward? What may be helpful is to fast-forward your mental tape and play things out. But you’ll also read about guys who would never “feed of the seed” of a “straight” roommate. If you look around this website, you’ll find all sorts of stories about things going splendidly with curious men. The truth is things could go either way, meaning bad or good. Much depends on this guy’s emotional makeup and mental maturity. Here’s the thing Jimmy, there’s no right or wrong answer.
The essential question for you is, should I sleep with him? At the end of the day, it’s kind of a moot point because he’s obviously interested. I couldn’t tell you if your roomie is gay, bi or simply curious. It doesn’t get any more direct than “go for it”, does it? Well, that and because the guy all but told you to service him. We know this because he’s getting an erection while wrestling with you.
Moreover, your roomie also appears to be attracted to you. So, in reading your post, my sense is you are really attracted to him. From the sound of it, your roommate is the stuff of “lick and yum” as some folks like to say around here. I can imagine this whole thing has been difficult for you. Well, either relate to or fantasize about. It sounds like you are in a situation that a lot of guys who visit this blog can relate to. But I’m afraid it could get weird afterward. It’s not like I don’t want to because I totally do. When I pointed this out to him, he looked at me and said, “You know you want to suck it.” When I joked back and told him I would, he replied, “Go for it!” The last time it happened, I could feel his stiffy through his sweats. On three separate occasions, we’ve gotten into wrestling matches. As an American gay man living in China for 8 years, and Thailand for 5 years, I assure you that gay life is not as peaches and cream as you want it to be.But here is the weird thing. You sweep in, enjoy the surface gratifications that present themselves in designated gay hotspots, but fail to look at the subsurface of what it does to families and society outside of the gay streets and bar areas of a community. Your comment about where it is best to party and travel. Your commentary in this article is from the viewpoint of a gay traveler, not invested in these societies and cultures.
It can take decades for a society to become prepared. Just look at what happens when western nations, such as America or the UK "colonize" other nations. It is one thing to ensure that the minorities have equality and acceptance, but to push that acceptance on societies not prepared for such drastic and quick change is harmful. Sure, it is great for the minorities of gays in the country, but at what cost to the remainder of societies. This is especially true in places where LGBTQ progress has been made. Bi-sexual thinking is also more of a norm, as sex is a form of entertainment and relief from the daily dredges of life in these poorer nations.Īs western influences and liberal ideologies get introduced and accepted into these countries, they breakdown the fabric of the societies and are causing more harm to the general populous than actually doing good. It is culturally expected for them to have children and families, so as to not be a burden on society. This is why you will find many "gays" in these countries marrying the opposing gender. Without that conservative society norm, the elderly would be forgotten and thrown away. While you may condemn the "conservative" view in some of these countries, it is a necessity. Parents spend their lives giving and supporting their children, with the concept that the children will repay at the end of a person's life. That is the responsibility of the children of a family. For instance, many countries do not rely on retirement funds and social programs to take care of the elderly. On that same note, the family is much more important, as well as the progression through age. Even the concept of "love" and "relationship" is different. It should be noted that many Asians, regardless of country, view sexuality much differently than a western gay would.